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End of September life update

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  • rushing to the art school, back to my apartment
  • calves on fire
  • redefining what community is, again and again
  • feeling emotions beyond stress(!!!!), almost to the point that it’s scary
  • where no one else can embrace you, the wall with your memories and your work offers respite — like, in material form, all the people you love embrace you in memory
  • swaying on the sticky floor of the Orville Peck show, where some dudes in front of you offered a better spot because he spilled beer all over himself
  • watching said dude ask the girl next to you if she wanted to dance, and watching him get rejected as she replied “i’m gay” at a thousand decibels
  • comcast support agent randomly pasting in SufjanStevens at the end of ur convo
  • in the midst of a crowd of late 20s gays/theys on the state house, back after years, taking in insane experimental sets
  • checking 5 beers off their draft selection in one night, all but 2 tasted terrible; beer is still pretty good though
  • 5-hour long calls with friends you love, nearly every day
  • your sister asking you if calling you sister is still okay (it still is)
  • reserving tables in starbucks at 6am, morning dew, the peppy voice of the barista, thank yous and surprisingly long conversations
  • a24 soap?
  • dying over angel olsen’s spring––non-stop, sobbing, in the middle of the day
  • more people in a week than you have in a year
  • laughing so hard that you don’t know how to do ur makeup so that ur eyeliner doesn’t run (this was never a problem before)
  • baby blue / sage green nail polish days
  • knowing that “comphet” is not an are.na channel, yet
  • kid dakota signed vinyl, your most treasured thing
  • sleeping in a room you couldve only dreamed of as a kid
  • setting off the fire alarm in centuries old buildings
  • camel blues again after a long while
  • mashed potato pizza sounding disgusting but actually being quite great
  • bruises and blood all over your hands, sponsored by ikea; splinters and cuts so beautiful and handcrafted and not out of destruction but out of creation
  • rereading my call me by your name review; how loaded and desperate and true and desperate and desperate and desperate am i?

★★★★★ Rewatched by Chia Amisola 15 May 2021

never looked up anything about the movie, just let it sit with me. patient because love is so. subtle because love is so. suddenly caught what elio scribbles down on brown sheets – “i thought he didn’t like ME”, oliver, oliver, elio elio elio elio scribbled, rotting, frantic… i first watched this when i was as old as elio in the movie and thought he was some bolder, mature genius. now suddenly he seems so precocious, so like who i was, so desperate & nervous, so careful, so self-aware, far from realizing that he will never feel this way in life again…

looking over the star of david, biting the star of david, i love you in a way that is godlike. i know you, in the way i am everywhere at once, in the way that i know everything i don’t. that the world we believe in is the same one. (it could be if we allow.) or when elio grabs oliver’s crotch, and then oliver lifts loose fabric to show his wound again and again, and oliver creates space, and sticky hands wiping each other’s body’s off on dusty bedsheets / bare chests – study the etymology of ‘apricot’, live in its summer, “why are you hurting me”. and then the relationships we hold on to empty for something truer; i sleep with someone else for reaction, affirmation, maybe validation, mostly for stability with the world––then i have the whole of you for myself.

or at piave. “how could they hear each other?” when so far away and you realize they really weren’t. “you know what things,” whispered. i must admit things at a distance. i must wait for you in the same place every night and this indirectness will stand… until the story of the knight is read as he rests on his mother’s lap. i tell you what i know of the world. i’m stupid and anxious and it repeats and it repeats all over, there is nothing to save me from this moment and everything is up to you. “because i wanted you to know because i wanted you to know because i wanted you to know.”

and he bikes forward, leading, for the first time

  • crying over text
  • buying a macbook while yours is in repair just to return it before 14 days
  • plans with internet friends that youre making real
  • having a group of people to say good morning and good night to again. when was the last time there were people who cared about when you drifted off, and if you ever would wake up again? maybe it was when i was 16. now i know there are.
  • the light shining through my blinds, i am never alone.
  • unpacking life bit after bit
  • getting lucky with A24 MYSTERY MUGS: MIDSOMMAR (ok), UNCUT GEMS (Yes!), THE LIGHTHOUSE (YES TO HOMOEROTIC WILLEM DAFOE / EDWARD CULLEN)
  • refreshing depop every day for some fucking twilight merch –– it’s impossible, truly, i just want a shitty twilight hoodie. somehow hot topic still stocks the twilight zone, but not twilight…
  • treating others loving the things i love as a good thing.
  • spending an entire night reading about birds and extinction and the politics of bird sightings. crying over sufjan stevens’ ‘lord god bird’ tribute. the best thing humans do is memorialize. our lives are so fleeting, but we pass on, remember
  • dreaming about minecraft youtuber georgenotfound (watched like, 2 videos on him months ago; specifically one where he was telling, very badly, a story about how he and his friends accepted some tacos or something from a delivery driver that mistook their house as the addressee and how they ate it all and hid–decided he was boring, even if he was average white guy twink hot) in some capacity
  • blisters at the back of your heel bursting
  • phoebe bridgers’s garden song makes sense!
  • back and forth HEAVING, carrying everything you own in luggages from airbnb to apartment, laughing the whole way while your friend fawns over an ex and tells you, for three straight hours, how much they believe in you
  • sharing location for the first time
  • seen, loved
  • thesis presentation! went really well, never more moved
  • just genuine, sincere awe at how many people are so, so kind to you, even when it is not necessary.
  • the world unforgiving––but not the people. not these ones, at least.

Never far from a hospital

Reading Time: 8 minutes

Writing this from a wobbly-as-shit Ikea desk (because the pre-drilled holes aren’t deep enough / the screws are too long), in a shiny-musky new studio-ish apartment (the kitchen is at least in a separate area) with no overhead lighting––illuminated only by a bright streetlight shining through the gaps of my blinds that face a parking lot. I realized that my parents have no longer seen every space I’ve lived in despite having nursed the roof that held us over Manila monsoons. In the last place I stayed in for three-and-so weeks (but not really since I was mostly away from New Haven), the blinds were broken and let everyone peer in, eight different people shuffled in and out of the house, food (even if labeled ever so delicately) was thrown out every two days, and more cracks than floor followed you down to the basement––where a mound of bleach spilled itself onto open concrete.

Nothing is more me than disgusting materiality. I realized that as someone who spends nearly all of their time inside, I can’t function without a stable sense of four walls around me. This was mostly fine at Yale, where 50-year-old donor-funded statues surrounded decades-old rooms and their enfolds, the last stand of protection amidst RFID swipes a clothes hanger propping doors open. This was also fine at my Seattle Airbnb (* capitalization of Airbnb corrected, I never got it right––I’m sorry god), which was far too nice for me and an Amazon intern to afford reliably. This was more than fine under the grasp of my now-suburb native relatives, where I flipflopped between a large bed and an open desk, my belongings always strewn somewhere in suitcases and boxes.

I’m sleeping on a pile of blankets and comforter on the floor, silk pillows, three pieces of luggage carrying my entire life, Amazon boxes, popped air bags, a loose Ikea screw, the creaking sound of my shitty Lagkapten / Olov legs, a wall holding the most valuable items I own with cheap tape. New Haven ambulances, party buses, and cops on Friday night; three blocks from the hospital and another six to the cemetery. Never have I felt some semblance of home again, like I’m making something more stable––making, in the sense that I could never have with my childhood bedroom, where a printed picture of Gerard Way with the margins only folded over still sticks up next to dried flowers given to me by an ex three years ago––making, in the sense that empty music and white girls laughing in the hallways isn’t bothersome at all, or were motorcycles revving across college or Manila streets, or that I need much at all. I bleed out opening Amazon boxes, I fight over who can carry my boxes to the next place, I swear to never fly back to the Philippines for the sake of saving money––and cry because nobody comes to see me graduate, as I cried outside a restaurant filled with relative-strangers after my high school graduation, I rip 3M hooks out the wall no matter how hard I try to get it right, I never do anything right––

I have a huge problem with items; which is weird to even type down, because I never truly admitted that in person and acknowledged it for what it is (a problem). When I was young, a series of break-ins in our home made me paranoid of losing everything. People fluttered in and out of the house, and in the chaotic mess of notebooks and blanket piles and $3 gifts would I get panic attacks over a shirt I haven’t seen in a while, of a Php20 bill (0.40 USD) leaving my sight, of forgetting who I was without any item. Materiality symbolized love in the Philippines, at least in my family that substituted new pairs of shoes and tears for actual conversations. One of my most stunning, worst memories when I was in early middle school was crying so hard for a red plastic table and chair set in a department store––about thirty dollars (Php1,500) and too out of budget––but the idea of not having to do homework on the floor, papers no longer stained by the corrugations of the breaking tiles was my dream. My seven-year-old something self couldn’t even get over it in the long car ride home (2 hours, Manila highway style and all) that we eventually drove back to the department store to purchase it. I wore that set down, it holding all my memories, it carrying a series of valedictory gifts and tears, until the legs on the plastic chair (made for someone no older than 7, probably) had to be repaired with masking tape, then duct tape, then super glue––until cracks broke the hinges of the table.

I gave shitty gifts comprised of tiny trinkets and letters, because quantity and love mattered to me. My room is filled with plastic crates and shelves that carry my dreams across the years, materials that I equated with my worth, materials that I feared made me look more poor than interesting, etc.

In America. I carry with me as much as I can of the people I love.

On the wall are polaroids whose backs are filled to the brim with sticky residue, a result of being put up and down everytime I call somewhere home for more than two weeks. A shot of flowers from a pack of Instax film I would never buy myself gifted by a friend, a League of Legends joke jotted in blue and pink pen addressed to me (pens I still remember borrowing), an A24 postcard of waves doubly attached with rainbow washi tape, my “media boss” and their Adobe Illustrator piece of a cheesy key and heart given to me my junior year of high school (“Make us proud,” it reads), a picture of me and my best friends in a garden at Japan, a picture of me and my best friends in a hotel room wearing matching shirts–and the internal reminder to go and call them more, a Glossier card from the first time I stepped into NYC, the latest Amazon-template gift card that reads “Chia love, From daddy and mommy”, a ticket to the Ateneo de Manila University TEDx talk held in Newport Performing Arts Center back in 2017––where my friend and I couldn’t find the food court so instead went to a fancy Italian restaurant to share a single pasta dish (it was the type of cacio e pepe where they mix it in a cheese wheel, for what trend finds itself in NYC easily finds its way in Alabang) with four refills of their bread and olive oil, a clipping from an ex I used to exchange 1500-word handwritten letters with on yellow pad, scented paper, manila paper, index cards. I remember all the love I carry with me, that when I put up––makes a space feel like a home, that I can live––still, that I can live for them.

I want all the people I love in the same place, really. Maybe I mean that materially for the time being, when it can’t happen in the physical sense of personhood. I wonder if that time will ever come. I want all my cottagecore fantasies with my gay best friends to come true one day, even if half of us end up with men. I want to destroy that waitbutwhy.com article that tells you that 93% of your time spent with your parents is gone by the time you graduate high school––denounce it for all its inaccuracy, or claim myself as the exception.

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I think about how $2000 flights back to Manila are a thing; what it means to pour your savings into stability, a home as an act of love; the Filipino family (where we make no distinction between relative and family, except when speaking to the American audience) spread out across thousands of miles and then later thousands of islands; the knowledge that these walls, if given the chance, will one day be filled by more people that I can count and more mouths that I can feed––so that all returns to New Year’s Day after mass where everyone you’ve known since birth sleeps silently on mounds of blankets and throw pillows on hard floor.

In the stillness of the morning, when I’m not woken up by an alarm (and instead by engines, wind, air conditioning blasting), sometimes I see the pattern of my grandmother’s bedroom from Tondo on the ceiling; other times the window in Silang of my mother’s childhood bedroom that looks over an uphill path towards the back of our house surrounded by overgrowth and brush; and other times the exact specks of yellow-stained concrete in my childhood room, the same firm marks of push and time on my back, where the pink curtains were forever closed shut––never drawn––its tint covering every stain…

I don’t remember the earliest houses I lived in. I was told that one of them had a Bahay Kubo in the yard, and in the other, I still remember the baby gate placed at the top of the stairwell. I remember the childrens’ scrubs I’d wear, the buttons pressing so hard into my chest and indenting them as I laid on the floor; thin blankets and a body pillow wrapped over me, hands moving; wearing down the splinters on your door by running your hands through it, over and over.

The obvious thing here is that I need to rethink my definition of ‘home’ now that I’ve relegated the old one to ‘childhood home’. I still mean ‘the Philippines’ when I say ‘here’ sometimes. I still wonder if I have it in me to cry mounds in the corners, eyes twitching before the tears stream out of sheer loneliness in a house full of people I love as much as I can in an overpriced apartment steps across a billion-dollar institution in a room alone.

Tonight, I sleep amidst the Lagkapten desk cover cardboard (used to measure the size of the Full bed I have incoming, arrival date pending because I wanted an intentionally ~Japanese~ mattress to keep with my bed on the floor situation, since that’s what I know as home) and stuffed toys that have remained with me through my journey. There’s newer things I lose, too: an earring at Pitchfork, my Twin Fantasy vinyls––both editions, now somewhere on a cargo ship in the Pacific Ocean, the change from cover fees at bars, stickers that I’ve been bringing around for years. I keep losing items and people and time. I wonder how many people I can bring in, new. Or, is my job now to maintain? The more people and experiences I take in, am I abandoning the ones that I carry without me?

I have a recurring dream of a fire taking away everything I own, people aside. I swear like many others, I can rebuild––but what about me, whose memory relies on photographs and physicality to remember? I rebuild, but for who?

Most of my apologies directed to my companies sound like this: “sorry, my living situation is unstable.” To many people back home (I draw the distinction between name-brand American tech company and then ‘Filipino startup’, because the latter is less interesting to most), this is generally unbelievable. America is a gracious land that has sheltered me. It has given me new life, name brand and all, and the terrors of living here are incomparable to the pain of the Philippines. I scald no skin with decade-old tea kettles when I shower, I can flush toilet paper down. In the world, there is no threat of fire but the wildfires…

Near 1AM. In the frat next door, a white boy speaks into a megaphone and kicks people out.

Gifts and items welcome at my place ;^) DM for addy

Update:

My kit of screws has arrived from Amazon and I have fixed the shitty Ikea table. It is no longer wobbly. My floor lamp arrived and I am no longer only illuminated by the streetlamp.

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